To improve communication
Few
simple words can either build bridges or build walls. Bridges keep the communication
flowing easily and harmoniously. Wall
creates distance and cause disharmony.
Make sure you are building bridges.
.
If
someone tells you “you should do that” you have to get this done right now. Your thoughts might be “Don’t tell me what to
do “NO way, buster” .”Should” and “have
to “have a feeling of judgments or authority attached to them. They cause a negative reaction. These words build walls. To make
them into bridge
builders try saying, “consider trying it this way “ “When do you
think you might
be able to get this done?
Immediately
eliminate “should and “have to “from your language.
Ways to take nice-spring
breaks…All long years
Spring
break, fun in the sky, food & Beverages.
Friends and Romance, Rest and relaxation, laughter, connections, get -away. Just like setting time aside for meetings and
work projects, it’s important to set time aside just for you. This time can be spent alone or with others you enjoy.
It can last 15 minutes, a few hours
or all day you are actually scheduling
a small spring back that you can look
forward to every single
week.
To
give you an idea there is a way called “The
Artists way”.
(a) Make a list of 12 things you have
enjoyed doing (Gardening,
going to movie, cooking, dancing, giving and getting messages, biking,
playing games, reading, bowling,
symphony, attending a ball game
biking etc)
(b) Go back over your list and date the last time
you did each one.
(c) Are
you surprised to find that it’s been months or even years since you have done some of the things you enjoy.
Mini
spring breaks feed your soul. Rejuvenate your body and clear your mind. They are vital ingredients to living success from
inside out. Make it a habit to make mini springs breaks all year long. Relax, laugh connect and play. Be like a college
student- it’s party time
The Art of appreciating
success
Cultivating
the art of appreciating success is one of the most valuable things you can
do. Take time out daily to say thank you
and give praise to others and yourself. Appreciating success, acknowledging accomplishment
and rewarding achievement balances out negative. Build self confidence and boosts spirits. Ultimately the art of appreciating success generate
more success.
Start with appreciating five people tomorrow by saying thank you
and giving praise, then appreciate
yourself by making
a list of your 5 success for the
day . Just by writing them down you are acknowledging
you accomplishments
Common characteristics of
perfectly perfect
Do you
strive to be a perfect patty or a perfect Patrick? Do you spend hours trying to
make a project at work or at home just right? Do you worry that what you are doing
or saying won’t be good enough? Do you procrastinate on getting started, stop in the middle or
just not finish? These are just some off the characteristics of a
perfectionist.
Being
a perfectionist put lots of strain, pressure and stress on you. If you are prone to such tendencies ask yourself
whose standards you are trying to, live up to, yours or somebody else’s. Rather
than trying to please others please yourself
instead by doing
your best and strive for excellence, rather than perfection
A
personalized strategy for putting yourself first
Our
tendency when we are
thrust into a caretaking role, is to
give our all to those people
is need. whether they are ailing parents,
young children , demanding boss, a
stressed out co worker, a needy
friend or a spouse who wants
more time . It’s natural to want to put them first above over own needs. Yet when we consistently do this over time we
will suffer and so will they?
When
too much of your time and energy is extended towards
others it will be at
the expense of your own
self care.
Ask yourself these guest
ours
What does putting myself first mean
to me?
Where am I not putting myself first?
How Have I been putting myself first?
How have I been letting myself care
slip?
What three things can I do right now
to begin?
Some ideas to get started
Say no to requests
Go to bed earlier
Make that doctors appointment
Do something for fun everyday
Let go of a volunteer activity
Stop staying late at work
Have a house keeper
Your greatest gift to those you care-about is to
take care of yourself first
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