What ever you'll read is solely what I feel. It is solely my view of
seeing the things. While reading if any person feels hurt then please for that
I am sorry. But it is solely what I have felt and written.
Everyday many people walk into our lives, some stay behind and some
move on without leaving footprints, knowingly or unknowingly they all play
various roles in shaping our lives. Our parents, the ones who play a pivotal
role in shaping our present and future, they leave the deepest footprints as we
are judged by our education, not the bookish education but the education we get
since our birth. But then there are people whose roles are important but it is
more visible when they are not there. As an example the maid who works in our
house. We get so used to with her that we don't see, rather I guess we
deliberately overlook, their roles as important because we take them for
granted. But the day they don't come the sky falls on our heads. But the people
I have discussed here till now are not the ones I will be discussing. The main
thing to discuss here is the one person whom we consider to be the life
partner.
Life Partner: A person who stands by you, is with you and is around
you. A person who becomes a dairy for our lives, a person who judges us as a
friend, as a philosopher and as a guide. In short a person who becomes a
witness of our lives so that what ever we have done till date should be known
to at-least one person who is considered to be the closest.
But these days the meaning of life partner has changed considerably.
They are no more the ones who can be seen as 'the one'. What went wrong and why
this sort of a change in the mentality of people? Why the society is taking
marriage as a way to earn? Why marriage is considered to be a thing where money
and grander can be shown? The whole meaning has changed even the
people have changed. These days the marriage market is considered to
be safe-haven for the corrupt minds. The woman is considered as the
golden goose laying golden eggs. But why this change?
This change is of-course is not sudden, this is a thing that
was hibernating in us since ages. Any girl child when born they are
told that they are 'parai dhaan' so they have to leave their nests and be with
someone else. The husband, irrespective of his behavior, is considered as
the 'pati parameshwar' "the god all mighty". Due to these stark
differences the society gets divided in two groups. The girls family is
considered as the weaker section of the society as they are taken as the ones
who are giving away their daughter. Have we become so numb that we cannot
change these practices that has been going on since ages? Are the boys of our
society not that well to do that they need to beg in front of their in-laws for
money and everything? Why can't the boys stand up against it?
A girl when she gets married she carries with her lots of dreams and
hopes that she wants to fulfill with her man. She wants to be with him in his
every step. But all these dreams and hopes get shattered when the man whom
she epitomized as 'the man' changes his behavior towards
her. When he tortures her over trivial issues and slowly discloses
that the ones seen as trivial is the major issue where the lady is asked to be
the golden goose. What has happened to our men? Why they
are carrying such low contrived thinking? Lots of questions but one
answer Stand - Up against dowry.
A woman is educated by her family and she learns to stand on her feet.
She can do everything for herself. She can even live alone without being
married or even as a divorcee. She can do anything to earn her freedom. Then
why is she again pushed to lead a life which is worth not living? What I feel
that the moment the word society comes in our minds we feel scared, 'log kya
kahenge, log kya sochenge, agar tum vo ghar chor ke aa gayi to log hum pe
hansenge'. But who are these people and what is this society that doest allow a
woman to lift her head. The people who taken into consideration are never
bothered about our existence then why should the woman take them
into consideration when she is fighting for her rights. This society can never
do anything to the ones who stand firm with their decision and parents should
know that they were the ones who took care of her, who gave her education, the
society only provided a place where they can live and can be called as
civilized, though society is full on uncultured brutes.
People are changing and their mentality towards women
as commodity is slowly changing. Though this change is not that
considerable but this change is visible. Men are slowly coming out of the
bondage os this societies norms and are standing by their counterparts and are
fighting against the evils of this society. It will take some more
time to completely eradicate the evil of dowry but the change has
started. I am sure that very soon people specially the men in our society
will understand that taking dowry is just like taking bribe. If bribe
is considered as bad then dowry is worst.
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