There are five stages of grief:-
(a) Disbelief - This
can’t be happening to me.
(b) Longing
- Desire
to be with the deceased.
(c) Anger - Why
me?
(d) Depression - Overwhelming
feeling of helpless.
(e) Acceptance - Accepting
the loss.
These stages of grief last for six
months approx. After this time growing
is less.
Request your Boss to give you colleague’s
share of work to help him.
Have patience and understanding for
him.
Be with him, let him know you are there
to listen and talk to.
Encourage
him to take a walk or join some activity with you and spend some
time together.
Acknowledge his grief, let him know you
recognize the magnitude of the loss.
Send a sympathy card, note or flowers
as a way to extend your condolence.
It is not necessary to ask questions
how the death happened.
Avoid
platitudes like, “life is for living”, “It’s God’s will”. They rarely console
mourners.
Inappropriate
to say, “I know how it feels”. Keep your personal feelings aside.
Try to keep why and should out of your
conversation. Don’t allow your
facial
expression, body language or gestures to give away your judgmental
thoughts.
Become
comfortable with silence. No need to
fill up every moment
with conversation.
Listen
to your colleague frequently. Do not
discourage him to talk
about the deceased.
Accept the feelings expressed.
It
is inappropriate to say you should not feel like that, Do not hesitate to
encourage him to go for counseling if the need arises watch out for signs
like
weight loss, depression or talks of extreme actions.
Be open to your colleague’s need and make
frequent contacts when required.
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