Love is Dead

Love is basically give and take-as much as you can give and as much as I can take. Love is giving all you have without expecting anything in return. Love is its own reward. No longer true. No sooner love is institutionalized into marriage or turned into a lover-mistress relationship, it is devalued into a contract between partners as in business and therefore business moves govern their relationships. Each tries to extract as much as he or she can and give as little in return as possible. They develop a “ledger psychology” balancing what they have given against what they have received with a view to making a net profit for themselves.

Love has fallen victim to the changed values of society. It was based on trust and now no one trusts any one. Distrust is so wide spread that love has withered to lifelessness. A society in which corruption is rampart generates a climate of pervasive deception. When you hear of the million made by politicians and black marketers, you don’t feel uneasy filling your tax returns, indulge on a little cheating with the customs and smuggles in camera, watch, a transistor an extra bottle of whisky. Soon this cheating mentally transfer to persona relationships and you think a little  lying to your husband, wife or sweet heart will do no harm you become more self-entered, more reluctant to deny yourself anything and justify it as, “I owe it to myself.

Distrust is learnt from experience. When somebody you have trusted lets you down, you begin to distrust everyone else. It is a kind of personalized Pearl Harbor experience. All of us have experienced Pearl Harbors in our lives.

Most adulterous affairs takes place not because the marriage is unhappy but because a safe opportunity to commit adultery becomes irresistible. When an opportunity to have a fling with little danger of discovery presents itself the vast majority of adults male and female will avail of it. The choice before them at the time is between a transitory sense of guilt and letting go to the opportunity that may not come again and feeling stupid afterwards. Most people prefer not to feel stupid.

Fate often brings together people who had no intentions of falling in love with each other. Two parallel lines heading for infinity. Two soul’s straight as a die and from a respectable home. They did not want to intersect until their death; this was their secret pride and joy.