Confusion About Marriage

Loves wakes men once a life time each,

They left their heavy lids and look

And lo, what one sweet page can teach

They read with joy, then shut the book

And some give thanks and some blaspheme

But most forget, but either way

That likes a child’s unheeded dream

Is all the joy of all their day?

We love but once, for once only are we perfectly equipped for loving. We may appear to ourselves to be as much in love at other times-so will a day in early September, though it be six hours shorter seem as hot as one in June.

First look is the one most worth having, yet the best marriage is often the second, for we should marry only when the desire for freedom is spent.

The blissful physical union can never be repeated with the same person and the craving to experience it again tempts men and women to try it out with other people. They begin to fall apart. One or the other looks for excuses for misunderstandings that creep in, they begin to lie to each other. They pretend that their new attachment is platonic or emotional and not physical. That is the time for the wiser of the two to put an end to the relationship because the one who wishes to prolong it in the hope that it may be restored to its initial intensity, is the one who is going to be hurt.

When a love affair is broken off, the heaviest blow is to the vanity of the one who is left. So my advice to those in love who begin to suspect that their affection is no longer being reciprocated in the same measure is to take courage and be the first to say “Go To Hell- or in the arms of your new lover”. Leave me alone. I do not want to have anything to do with you.

Every love affair must reach a point where it will attain marriage and be changed or decline or wither. Marriage is an experience everyone should go through and then lives his own life.

We do not murder the rival husband or wife but we murder their image. Two fears alternate in marriage, loneliness and bondage. The dread of loneliness being Keener than the fear of bondage. we get married.

Marriage is essentially a dialogue between man and a wife. And if it is carried on different wave lengths, communication breaks down and it is best not to persist in it.

Once you have children, you have to learn the art of appearing to them as being good parents. They must never be exposed to angry disagreements and if you feel a compelling need to engage in extra material relationship make sure your children never get to know about them.