What is true Happiness ?

When the Prophet (SAWS) came with new religion, one of the Central Components of the religion was to try to humanize people, to make the already difficulties circumstances of the world more tolerable, and one of the central ways of doing that was to help people get outside of their ego-centrally, because not only there is benefit for yourself when you are less egocentric, but it is making life a lot easier for other people.    

And so when the more people do that, the better life becomes, that what is so ironic about egocentricity, egocentricity makes life miserable for everybody. And you begin to get out of yourself and actually start thinking about other people, if you get a critical mass of people doing that, then you really begin to create paradise on earth, it is not the “double shot” triple cappuccino” .......... you know.......it’s like (here you go)..... Can I get you something? .....can I help? ...... that is what makes life much more enjoyable as an experience, it is not the satisfaction of the self that is apparent ....... that is illusion of happiness, is it if I just can’t satisfy myself I am going to be happy? That is the illusion of happiness.

The real happiness is actually serving others, that’s where real happiness is, in fact, in philosophy they actually call it the, “Hedonistic principle” because it’s a paradox why people feel good about. I mean ...... they just did a study on brain about giving charily and all the pleasure zones were fired of when people were giving charity. Because people feel good about helping other people. It’s the way we are designed but the nafs (ego) is there to present that .........nafs,shaitan,Hawa (desire) and Duniya, the enemies of the human are there to prevent that and that why, the beauty of the prophetic      way is that the Prophet (SAWS) said. “I did not see any good but I guided you to it.” He has already given you all the guidance, and then it becomes a matter of,”are you going to follow it or not?”

Are you going to practice these things and they are amazing principles and one of the examples that I use many times, that the Prophet (SAWS) said. “That none of you will enter paradise, unfit you believe, until you love each other” and then he said, “Can I tell you something that if you do it, love will begin to grow amongst you”. And they said, “Yes, indeed ya Rasool-Al-Allah,” and he said, “Spread peace amongst you”. Now the primary meaning of this is actually to give the greetings of peace but it also obviously has just  what it means to spread peace amongst you.      

You have to work to break human icicles. And people have reasons why they are, the way they are, and a lot of it is just they didn’t get enough hugs when they were kids. There is a lot of reasons why people have lack of trust for other people. This aspect of the religion of Islam is so ignored. This aspect of just treating people with respect, with human dignity is so ignored, and then the people wonder, why nobody treat us with respect. It is because; we don’t treat others with respect. Why God should grants us that gift of being respected if we don’t respect each other.