Assertiveness

Basic

Understand the philosophy of being assertive.

Recognize the difference between being assertive and aggressive through exploration of personal reactions to given situations. 

Participate in role playing exercise to practice the tenants of being assertive.

Instill in participant the courage to be assertive in the most appropriate and effective way.

Please write one sentence definition of Assertiveness “An honest direct and appropriate expression of one’s feelings, thoughts and beliefs. 

Test your Assertiveness.

Can you express negative feelings about other people and their behaviors’ without using abusive language?

.           Are you able to exercise and express your strength?

.           Can you easily recognize and compliment other people’s achievements?

.           Do you have the confidence to ask for what is rightfully yours?

.           Can you accept criticism without being defensive?

.           Do you feel comfortable accepting compliments?

.           Are you able to stand up for your rights?

.           Are you able to refuse unreasonable request from friends family and co workers?

.           Can you comfortably start and carry on a conversation with others?

.           Do you ask for assistance when you need it?

“A yes response to the questions indicates an assertive approach”

Why Assertiveness is Important

Effective communicators bring about the achievement of individual and or shared goals. 

Assertiveness increases your ability to reach these goals while maintaining your rights and dignity.

The Myths about Assertiveness

.           Other people feeling and rights are more important than yours.

.           You will offend other people by being assertive.

.           You are not important enough to express your feelings and rights.

.           Assertive Rights

.           You have right to be assertive.

.           You have the right to request that others change their behavior if they are infringing on your rights.

.           You have the right to use your own time to answer questions.

Assertiveness is what you would say when confronted with problem. What is your next step?