Some parents feel, out of love, that since
their daughter shall have to do household chores after marriage in her new
home, they exempt her from doing any work at home. And so when the daughter eventually does
marry, she is not accustomed to taking care of her new house or taking up new
responsibilities. This kind of love is
not true love.
Such parents usually start preparing for
their daughter’s dowry right after she is born.
In most cases this dowry is not put to any good use, and just becomes a
means of temporary display. The dowry
does not, in any way help the daughter to establish her life in her new
home. Dowry has nothing to do with the role
the daughter has to play in her in-law’s house.
The real task of the parents should be to
prepare their daughter for the future, not just prepare her dowry. She should be given an education, and proper
training in social etiquette, so that she has the wisdom and fortitude to make
her life a success.
Pampering, a part of the culture in many
homes, is expressed in many ways.
Parents tend to pamper their children by trying for fulfill all their
desires. They often ignore the faults of
their children, hoping that they will outgrow them. Where things go wrong they mostly hold their
children innocent and lay the blame on others. Some pamper their children at
the cost of their health, in giving in to all their fancies about food and
drinks, and in how they dress too.
Demonstrating one’s love in these ways is not commendable, for, as a
result of this, children are not aware of the realities of life, and grow up
spoilt.
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